I wanna punch Lila Rose in the face…
April 27, 2009
Filed under Politics
Tags: abortion, anti-abortion psychopaths, feminism, Lila Rose, Planned Parenthood, Politics, PRO-CHOICE, women's rights
It’s been a month since I’ve had a chance to write on here. A FUCKING MONTH!! The passing of time is moving too quickly, and I see it as a personal insult to my daily list of tasks. Time can go to hell.
Yesterday, I found a newspaper article on my desk that Brad had left for me with a front page article circled for me to read. The headline read: “Abortion Foe Goes Undercover”. You can check out all the details of the article at the “abortion foe’s” website HERE. To sum it up, a college student named Lila Rose has been posing as a 13 year old, going into Planned Parenthood with a hidden camera, telling the nurses that she’s pregnant from a 31 year old and needs an abortion. By law, if a minor goes into any health facility and states that they’ve had sex with an adult, the nurse has to report it as statutory rape, and parents must be notified if someone this young wants an abortion (the age on this varies from state to state). But Miss Rose (who is a college student and NOT pregnant) has been trapping the nurses into telling her to not mention the fake boyfriends age, or telling her to go across state lines where laws are more lenient. Miss Rose is trying to “expose” Planned Parenthood for not notifying police and parents, therefore allowing statutory rape to go unpunished.
BULLSHIT!!!! This has been played out in the media as if it’s one lady’s quest to protect young girls from “statutory rape”… a crusader trying to save young girls. This is not true. Rose is just another stereotypical anti-choice fanatic trying to find a back-end way to shut down abortion clinics. She knows that the “abortion is wrong because god says so/all life is sacred/bla bla bla” is tired, played-out, and noone wants to hear it anymore… so she’s found a new stragey. And, sadly, it worked. Because of this gender traitor, on Wednesday Tennessee said it would seek to end it’s $721,000 contract with Planned Parenthood, and last month the Orange County Board of Supervisors voted to suspend a grant worth nearly $300,000 to Planned Parenthood. Rose is seen as a hero for the rights and protection of young girls…. but the damage she’s ACTUALLY throwing onto young girls in crisis could be catastrophic.
Let’s throw personal beliefs out the window for a second and look at common sense facts. Planned Parenthood does not exist because anyone thinks that abortions are a super fun good time. They don’t throw little parties whenever a girl comes in to terminate a pregnancy. Working there is NOT a fun job… but it’s a NECESSARY job in our society. These nurses have to deal with young girls facing one of the toughest decisions in their life. They aren’t cops. They aren’t there to judge. They are there to help girls who come to them. And yes, young girls get involved with older men. It’s awful, and these older men are vile creatures… but that doesn’t change the fact that these young girls need HELP and should NOT be forced to have a baby. They go to places like Planned Parenthood because they don’t feel like they can go to their parents, or to any other adult in their life… and they rely on places like this to help them through this so they can get on with their life. Planned Parenthood isn’t the Rape Crisis Center- if it was, it would be called the Rape Crisis Center instead of Planned Parenthood. And yes, they’re supposed to report it when very young girls come in seeking help- but when you’ve got a 14 year old girl in sitting in front of you, pregnant, scared, and with nowhere else to turn; and you know that if you threaten to call the cops or her parents, she’ll just leave and either take extreme and potentially deadly measures to get rid of this baby or have the baby at too young of an age… well, I probably wouldn’t call the cops or her parents either. They’re there to help the girls that come to them- NOT do the job of the police or the parents.
And let’s be realistic as to just how many 13 and 14 year old girls with adult boyfriends come into Planned Parenthood seeking an abortion. Out of ALL the services that P.P. provides, just how prominant is this particular situation really? 3%? 5%? Abortion services aren’t the only thing P.P. does. They aren’t rolling in buckets of dead babies. They are where I went in college for all my OBGYN check ups, to get affordable birth control, cheap pregnancy testing when I thought I was pregnant with Sully, to get my ex-husband tested for STD’s when we were dating before I let him screw me, to get my friends the ‘morning after pill’, etc. I went there because it was affordable, staffed by women, and they were understanding of any situation. To sever funding and shut down these clinics because one girl doesn’t like abortions and is willing to underhandedly trick the nurses into thinking they’re helping a child stuck in a HORRIFYING situation is just sick and wrong.
Not everyone agrees with abortion. That’s fine. BUT, in my book, if you’re a woman and you callously go out of your way to take away the choices of other women, making their life more difficult or forcing them into a situation that they aren’t prepared for or that could ruin their life- you’re a gender traitor, and an enemy of mine. Go ahead and hate abortion… I think you’d be hard pressed to find someone out there who loves them, or thinks that they’re a good time. But DO NOT make shitting on the rights of other women your life’s work. We live in crappy times filled with horrible situations and decisions- don’t make it that much harder by forcing other women to have babies that they can’t possibly take care of, OR forcing them to go through with the pregnancy and put the baby up for adoption (which can be far more traumatic than an abortion could ever be)… or the worst- potentially harming themselves by taking dangerous measures to get rid of the unwanted fetus because their safe and legal clinics have been taken away from them. Shutting down Planned Parenthoods’ and getting their funding cut because of your own personal beliefs IS betraying other women’s right to safety and control over their own life.
Lila Rose, you ARE a gender traitor. You make me embarrassed to have a vagina, and I hope you get genital warts that spread all over your body. And if I ever see you, expect to be vomited on. You’re THAT fucking vile. It takes ALOT to make me to hate another woman- but she won that prize.
I wrote her an email… feel free to do the same. Her email address is lilarose@liveaction.org and the phone number is 408-497-3982.
One person CAN make a difference… it just sucks ass when the difference destroys the lives of so many others.
On a lighter note, I had a bookcase fall on me a couple days ago and I was told because of what I experienced afterwards I probably had a mild concussion (which is all my brain needs after all the other head injuries I’ve had); we went to a pet show last weekend and I now feel it’s mandatory that I own a Great Dane to go with my herd of cats; Sully was John Adams in a school play, and he wore the hat I made him for it upside down and backwards through the whole thing (which was a fucking riot); and I’m going to have new drawings for sale by this weekend on my webstore. I believe that’s all I have to share with you this evening.
Big hugs to you all… except you, Miss Lila Rose.
1. i missed your blog. your sense of humor and attitude are dead ringers for mine…altho i am mostly a lurker here. I usually don’t comment. BUT
2. This post burned my ass. I remember the day my daughter said to me “We almost did it last night>.” My next comment calmly was, “Oh. Then I suppose you are already on birth control?” Her response, “uh no.” “OK, well you are not going in to school tomorrow. We are going to planned parenthood!” She got the birth control that was needed, because I am a modern parent without my head stuck in the sands of abstinence. While there, she was ushered into a room, privately, without me, so that she had that 10 minutes alone with the staff just in case I wasn’t the cool kinda mom I am…. I remember this so clearly. I was beaming inside, knowing I was a mother who guided her daughter thru the many ins and outs of life. I knew what they were asking her. I was behind it 110%.
3. I am so infuriated I can’t even write to this bitch. Every other word would be a swear word she probably has never heard before…. WTF. It reminds me of the Pope telling people in Africa not to use condoms! It’s this religious thing again, with people thinking their religion should rule the world! We are right! Everyone else is wrong!
UGH!!!! Pulling my hair out, making goofy faces, and getting red in the face over this….GRRRRRrrrrr.
Fucked. Us. Lila Rose did.
It is a religious thing… but she was sneaky enough to try and play it out as some “protecting children from pedophiles” kindof thing because people are SICK TO DEATH of hearing about the religious angle. That’s great if you have a god- just keep your god and rules the hell away from me and my fully functioning lack-of-god. What makes me sick is that people fell for it. They played right into this twat’s hands, and now thousands of women are paying the price.
It is amazingly awesome that you’re so open and realistic with your daughter. Parents like you will never have to worry about their kid getting into a horrible situation because your daughter feels she can come to you. It’s the PARENT’S job to know who their child is dating, and what they’re doing… and if you’ve raised them to respect you instead of fear you- then they WILL come to you with problems and mistakes, and you can get through them together. You’re a good mom, and that makes me smile for miles!!!
Thanks for your rant! (I mean that in a positive way!!!) I hate people like this woman the way I hate Sarah Palin (who insisted that her state’s education program have abstinence only sex-ed. Wow, that really worked for the Palin family, huh???)
Anyhow you are completely right about gender traitors. I’m from Texas and there are many strong willed, independent women here, but there are also fundie women who believe in their god-given right to be second class. Makes me sick!
The fact is that rape (or statutory rape) is notoriously hard to prove. I was sexually assaulted at the age of 20 and I couldn’t do squat about it…I had no proof. Thank whomever (god or whatnot) that Planned Parenthood was there to test me for STDs and to give me morning after pills. If a 13 year old is “raped” by an older man, then she may need some social support, especially if her parents are ridiculous fundies like my parents. My parents still don’t know about what happened to me because it would make them question what I did to deserve it (btw I was alone in my bed at 3am and the guy broke in to my apartment, so there was NOTHING I did to deserve it).
Let’s hope that women’s rights will continue to grow under the present executive administration.
BTW had I gotten pregnant then I would have been one of those cases that fundies like to say never really happens because all women who have abortions are (according to them) whores that sleep around and deserve to… become mothers, raising the future generation (yes, I know it doesn’t make sense!!!)
That’s HORRIFYING that happened to you!!!! But the reason why crimes against women are so hard to prove is because social opinion is that the woman somehow “asked for it”. When I was in college, there was a boy that was stalking me. He knew my daily schedule and was EVERYWHERE I was, would call me multiple times a day freaking out, come over to my house all the time, and I was told by a friend of mine who had worked with him on a class project that he had photos of me all over his apartment that he had taken without my knowledge (it was creepy as hell). Finally, he broke into my apartment one evening when I was alone in there sleeping. I got away, and ran to my boyfriend’s work where we called the police. When the cops got there (and the boy was long gone), I gave them the guy’s name, description, and where he could be found. Then the cop who was taking the report started asking me what I did to provoke this!! He interrogated me as to what my REAL relationship with this guy was (assuming I was screwing him or something, but was lying about it because my boyfriend was there), and stating that if I didn’t lead boys on they wouldn’t act like this. And even though I gave the cops all the information they needed to go arrest the guy right then and there- NOTHING HAPPENED. Why? Because I must have somehow brought this on myself. It was a terrifying wake up call to just how important womens’ basic right to safety and justice are to the authorities.
It’s because of stuff like this that women DON’T go to the police, and girls DON’T go to their parents or adults. And where they DO feel safe going are places like Planned Parenthood because they get the help they need, they aren’t judged, and it’s safe. Places like P.P. are VITAL in our society right now.
It breaks my heart that you had such a horrible thing happen to you- but thankfully you had PP to go to, and you were able to insure that you were protected from having to continue to relive the horror by being forced to carry an unwanted child or unknowingly have some STD. ALL girls need to have that kind of protection.
I completely agree. It’s not really ‘oh those poor girls’ or ’save the baayyybeees’, it’s really ‘how can we force women to do what we want them to do’.
The anti-choice fuckers don’t care about the babies, because they don’t give a shit about what happens to them (OR the mothers) after the babies are born… they just want them born no matter what horrible, destructive, or unprepared situation they may be born into. It’s so crazy and unrealistic and sick- I sincerely don’t understand it.
And the fact that a young seemingly educated female is the instigator of this crusade just adds insult to injury. It’s bad enough when rich old crusty white male politicians try to pull this shit… but that’s at least expected because they have to dominate EVERYTHING no matter what the consequences are. But when a WOMAN does this much damage, it knocks the wind out of me.
This Lila Rose girl is a loser she should mind her own business and keep her Bible ways to herself. People are ignorant to begin with to think that Planned Parenthood is all about abortion, it actually gives some important resources and free forms of birth control. Well at least the ones where I live do I’d imagine there the same everywhere else.
Planned Parenthoods are the same pretty much everywhere. They are an AMAZING resource, and vitally important in our society where sex is traumatically pushed on our youth, but seen as a taboo at the same time. Our girls (and boys) need a safe, unbiased and nonjudgmental place to go for information, protection, and services.
And no… they don’t just perform abortions. They do SO MUCH MORE than that. Which is why they’re called “Planned Parenthood” instead of “Abortions Are Us”. The ignorance of these religious zealots seriously makes me sick to my stomach.
Punch her? I want to cunt punt her. GENDER TRAITOR is quite quite accurate. Horrid evil ignorant vile raging hobag comes to mind to. I will write to her… I need to calm down for a moment first so my entire letter is not just a string of violent creative curse words.
Going to go fume..
and scream..
and kick something…
(I love your blog though, makes me feel all warm and furious inside.)
I had to calm down for a while before I wrote to her. If you come at these people screaming profanities, they just dismiss you immediately (which I know I’ll be dismissed anyways- but fuck it, right?). And I didn’t even mention her statutory rape angle… actually, here’s what I wrote:
“Dear Miss Rose,
I’ve just recently read of your crusades, and I have one question for you….
When my teenaged niece (or any of her friends, or my friends, my friend’s children, or even myself) happen to get pregnant and are in need of the services of Planned Parenthood- but they’ve all been shut down due to your biased and socially ignorant witch-hunt, this would be the appropriate contact email to use to get a hold of you to adopt our unwanted babies? For you to ferociously go after these clinics and destroy their ability to help girls in crisis, it would seem that you really want these unwanted babies to enter this world (even if it means their born into a situation that has no room for them, or could lead them to have an unduly difficult upbringing)- so you must really want them for yourself. All of them. Or are you just one of those anti-choice vigilantes who only wants them to be born- but doesn’t care about their quality of life once they’re here?
I hope I have this contact email correct, and you can actually be contacted at the phone number 408-497-3982, because I have lots and lots of friends. And lots and lots of those friends have young girls… so we could provide you with all the babies that you could ever dream of. If you take away these girls’ options, then you take on the responsibility of being their only place to turn.
I hope you’re ready.
Sincerely,
Kristen Ferrell”
What I REALLY wanted to say was that I thought she was a rotted out pile of trash, it makes me gag to breathe the same air as her, she has no right to own a vagina, and I hope she gets cancer…. but I didn’t think that would do alot of good.
It’s true. but I do hope she gets cancer. and DIES. Tomorrow. And I’d feel no remorse.
Die Lila, Die.
WHAAAAAAAT!?
what a fucking asshole that lady is. seriously… WHAT THE FUCK!! ugh, i am so pissed that i can’t even think straight…
“if you’re a woman and you callously go out of your way to take away the choices of other women, making their life more difficult or forcing them into a situation that they aren’t prepared for or that could ruin their life- you’re a gender traitor, and an enemy of mine.”
For real.
i’m glad you wrote her an email. i was actually thinking about that while i was reading this….”ya know, it would be nice if kristen was able to say all of this straight to lila rose’s face.” but email works just as well. god, this pisses me off. AHH!!!
good to have you back!
I doubt the email goes directly to her…. but a friend of mine at work did a search for the phone number, and it looks to be a cell phone number. So who knows!
But these religious freaks usually just dismiss anyone with a differing opinion as “sinners” and respond with “I’ll pray for you”.
Gross.
Big hugs to my Whitney!!!
Great point you made about how Planned Parenthood isn’t just an abortion clinic. Good to know you have your facts straight, and that you know it’s a place where girls and women can get affordable birth control because society will most likely shun them and call them a whore.
Too bad people like Lila Rose, and these other Jesus freaks don’t understand
Out of all the services that people utilize of PP, abortions are just a small percentage. And a lot of the PP’s actually don’t perform abortions- but give the ladies a list of local abortion providers the girl can go to, and they just talk with the ladies about their health and options.
Birth control is NOT 100% effective (I got pregnant with Sully while I was on the pill)- so even if a woman is being really careful and responsible, she may still get pregnant. These services need to stay available. Hell, if I were to get pregnant right now, the first place would go is to Planned Parenthood to schedule an abortion. Even though I’m married with a kid and a stable household- our homelife would immediately become tragically unstable and damaged if we had another baby. I’m a RESPONSIBLE MOTHER… which is why I know I couldn’t possibly have another kid now. If places like PP are taken away- my family is fucked if I accidentally got knocked up.
It is indeed her phone number by the way
YES!!!!
I cannot believe this woman…I don’t even want to call her a woman actually since it will place her in the same category as the rest of us and we DO NOT want that!!!!! I went to PP for years for tests, bp and all that, I wouldn’t have been able to afford anything with out it!! and getting help with birth control is much easier than paying for raising a child. Sure, they want to shut down PP, but when a young girl gets pregnant, who the fuck is going to help her raise her kid?? Not these selfish assholes!!!!
And I totally agree..the women and men who all work at PP do not have the easiest job, with all the shit they probably hear from all these fanatics. They are just there to help. They deserve all the support they can get.
Lila Rose needs to get knocked by some creepy old guy, and then be told she cannot have an abortion.
Didn’t Planned Parenthood perform about 305,000 abortions last year?
Can anyone confirm that for me?
I did a quick search around online and that looks to be approx the right number.
That seems huge- but that just shows how vital places like Planned Parenthood are to our culture. I don’t see it as 300,000+ “babies being killed” (because they aren’t babies… they are a mass of growing cells), but I see that as 300,000+ girls who aren’t forced into a situation where they have to choose to either have dangerous back alley abortions, put a baby up for adoption, or be a parent when they’re not ready (and bring an unwanted child into a situation where they’re being raised by an unprepared parent). 300,000+ girls and women were able to reclaim their future.
Maybe it’s because I don’t see a fetus as being a baby that I can be so blunt about this. Or maybe I just care more about the ladies who are already a part of our current population who are struggling with a monumentally difficult situation, and I want these ladies to have as many options as possible. Or maybe I’m able to see the global and social ramifications of having 300,000+ women a year unwillingly forced into parenthood (especially when overpopulation is the number 1 reason why our planet is being destroyed… do we really need this many more people? Really?). Or that maybe we should focus on the thousands of babies and children who are ALREADY BORN living in orphanages and in foster care and in desperate need of homes and parents before stressing over bringing another 300,000+ unwanted babies into the world.
It makes me sick.
All this trauma and bullshit because of 1 verse in the bible:
Jeremiah 1:5 “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you…”
Retarded.
This makes me want to vomit with rage. I will email her and I will voice to her how she is going against every thing that we as women have worked for before and since we got the right to vote. She can go get raped and see how it feels to be carrying an evil strangers child.
But that last part is just between you and I, but on a much much much lighter note I came on here to share with you
Green Porno, if you haven’t already seen it. Written, directed and starring isabella rossellini. Its short films on how different types of insects procreate, its amazing.
AGREED. Let’s deal with the children that are already are here. That is why I am adopting. *screams*
Go to your hell Lila Rose.
geez…where to begin…
when i was 14 years old i thought i was ready to start having sex with my boyfriend. although i know now that i wasn’t, i was at least smart enough to go to planned parenthood before i went through with it to go on birth control. luckily, it was right behind my high school and i was able to schedule an appointment and walk there, telling my mom i was staying after school, then walk back in time to be picked up. they were nothing but wonderful, educational, caring, and helpful for me. i don’t know what i would have done without such positive women to help me through a rather scary situation for a 14 year old.
now i’m 31 years old and am one of the bazillion americans with no health insurance and few places i can turn to for health care that i can actually afford. i still to this day go to planned parenthood. i’ve been going to the same clinic now for several years and am happy that every time i go i see the same nurse practitioner for my yearly visits. i was even able to have blood testing there when it was suspected i might have a thyroid condition. they provide way more services than most people think and they do it well and i feel good about the quality of care i get from them. i don’t know what i would do if it came to them being shut down because of a group whose OPINION differs from mine and millions of others.
i got lucky. i never accidentally got pregnant. but many of my friends did. and they were glad to have the services that planned parenthood provides us. and if i had or if i do they are the first place i’ll call. i know that i have no business having a baby. i take every precaution i can but shit happens and if it did i am intelligent enough to know that i am in no position to adequately take care of a child mentally, financially, or otherwise. and i could never live with myself if i gave a child up for adoption and had no way to know that that person i was trusting would love this child as much as i would and never hurt it in any way. i couldn’t live with that.
i’ll be writing that email to her this evening after i get my desire to wring her neck calmed down. then i think i might go make a donation to planned parenthood in her name.
This lady scares me. Ew. If this was a realistic situation, what if the 31-year old had been her father? Would they release her back to her parents? Good idea, Tennessee.
Gender Traitor is right. I don’t understand women who are pro-life. I love asking them “What would you do if you were raped and got pregnant?”. They don’t know what to say.
Speaking of people to punch in the face…
http://www.voicescarryblog.com/
This man makes me so mad I see red and my blood pressure spikes. He embodies almost everything I hate in a human being.
Please everyone- rip him apart verbally,
Paige
Did that guy seriously call Obama “President Obortion”? Really??! I tried to read a few of his posts- but they were so out-of-control-nutso that I couldn’t even make it through a whole one without just jumping to the next.
Putting aside his nonsensical jumping from random bible passage to random bible passage, desperately trying to stretch each one to be anti-abortion (which every one was taken so far out of context that it was hilarious)… he’s a man. And men really shouldn’t be allowed a voice in the “abortion debate”. My stance on this has made many fellas out there really angry- but they need to utilize their balls and deal with it.
The only part a man plays in the pregnancy process is getting laid- then their role is done. Every other responsibility, burden, and decision about the pregnancy rests solely on the woman. This is a WOMEN’S ISSUE… so nothing enrages and disgusts me more than seeing some MAN on his soapbox rallying against an issue that has NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM!!!!
And I don’t want to hear the bullshit comeback of “his baby too” bla bla bla vomit. The man donates 1 sperm. The rest of the baby is created entirely by the woman. If I was building a car, got all the parts, I did all the work and put it all together- but my husband only donated the spark plugs…. would it be “his car” too? Fuck no! He may be allowed to sit in the car- but it certainly isn’t his. I tell my ex-husband that he is in charge of my son’s eyebrow- and the rest of Sully is mine because percentage-wise, that’s about what my ex’s sperm equates to in comparison to the rest of my son’s body (but I usually only tell him that in jest, or when I’m really mad at him).
Some men get really worked up over this because they’re used to being the dominant gender in this society- and this is something they can’t dominate. And they DESPERATELY want to… especially if they have it in their pea sized brain that it’s THEIR baby. But in reality, until they can incubate a fetus, carry it to term and birth it out- they need to SHUT THE FUCK UP AND KEEP THEIR OPINIONS TO THEMSELVES!!!!!!!