Just because we can, DOESN’T mean we should….
May 12, 2008
Filed under Damnit, I'm really tired., Parenting and all it's glory, Politics
Tags: family, Overbreeding, parenting
I worked retail for about 10 years. When you work retail for an extended amount of time, you’re exposed to just about every type of person out there- and you grow to loathe almost all of them. But the people that I grew to hate with a blind wild passion are couples with litters of children. All my friends in the food service industry will raise a fist in the air and scream “hell yeah!” to this statement as well. You’ve got over-tired parents just trying to get out of the house for a while, and their kids are running and screaming through stores and restaurants…. almost tripping waiters or getting their grubby clumsy little hands on all the merchandise in the store. But do the parents stop them? Of course not! Why? Because they’re too fucking exhausted from over-breeding to be able to pay close enough attention to all their millions of kids, and there are just too many of them to keep track. These people are service workers worst enemy.
Not only is having massive amounts of kids selfish and completely narcissistic (come on- are you REALLY that awesome that you need to duplicate your genetic code over and over and over and over again? No, you aren’t), but it’s so globally irresponsible that it’s sickening. Overpopulation is the number one reason why our planet is a complete mess… too much waste, too much consumption, too much over-development of our wildlife, too many toxins, too many landfills, too many factories, etc etc etc etc. When I see people with enough children to have their own family softball team, it makes me nauseous, and I have to fight the urge to beat the ever-lovin’ shit out of them. To inflict the planet’s population with your pathetic drive to start your own genetically-coordinated city is just rude.
A couple days ago, Brad showed me this photo:
This is a couple in Arkansas who have 17 kids, and are expecting child number 18. 18 FUCKING CHILDREN!!!! I had to take a couple days before I vomited my public response to this because I blew my fucking top. How dare these piles of trash burden our society with this much breeding!!! How fucking ignorant are these assholes??! I hate these people to my very core.
Let’s talk about waste… starting with diapers. A baby will go through about 5 diapers a day (if your lucky- but it’s usually more those first few months). By age 2, a child will go through approx. 3650 diapers. If you have 18 fucking kids, that comes to over 65,700 diapers. That is this asshole family’s contribution to our landfills. But let’s say they used cloth diapers instead- when you have a baby, you’re doing laundry every day anyways- but ESPECIALLY if your using cloth diapers. On average, one load of laundry uses about 22 gallons of water. But let’s be realistic and say that these folks have to do about 2-3 loads a day because they are starting their own army. In their 18 years of breeding, they will use 290,000-434,000 gallons of water on laundry alone. That doesn’t include the chemicals going into our environment from detergents- or the hard core bleaching chemicals that a cloth diaper service uses if they chose this route. This is just diapers and laundry… then there is water waste from this many people’s dishes, bathing, etc. Then there is food waste and consumption. And energy waste to keep this many people going. Etc etc etc…. god- this family makes me SICK!!!!
I don’t know exactly what the “right” number of kids is. My mom always told me that after my little brother came along, she realized that 3 kids was a little too much to handle, and that you should only have as many kids as you have hands (or else the extra kids are running with scissors in the streets towards strangers with candy). Every child deserves so much love, care, and attention that if those emotions have to be split up between too many kids someone is going to be neglected. And if you DO want to have more babies than you know what to do with- how about adoption??? How about the countless numbers of children in the foster care system who are DESPERATE for a loving home? Do you REALLY need for ALL your kids to have mommy’s eyes, or daddy’s nose? If someone is so fucking ignorant that they think 18 kids is a good idea, that’s the LAST person on the planet who should have 18 kids.
I’m going to find out where these fuckers live, and mail them an economy sized box of condoms and some “safe sex” literature that can be found at any local highschool. Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar from Rogers, Arkansas… fuck you to hell for making our planet a that much more crowded and filthy by your blind stupidity and inflated sense of genetic greatness. God won’t be mad at you for slowing down the reproduction… and your uterus will thank you (if it hasn’t fallen out in an attempt to escape already).
Life has gotten a little too rude for my liking… and I’m about to poke it in the eye.
March 17, 2008
Filed under Parenting and all it's glory
Tags: aspergers syndrome, autism, behavior disorders, family, GFCF diet, parenting, vegan, vegetarian
This is the part of the story where someone or something (preferably with superhero qualifications… maybe a little flying… I’d like to fly!) jumps into my “life picture” and says in that booming cartoon-like voice, “FEAR NOT!! I will save you!!”. And then this superhero-like entity throws down whatever magical capabilities they may have up their sleeve… and POOF! Life’s better. All is saved. I fall to a weeping thankful mess all over the rug. We all smile. Wipe a tear. Cut to credits. Happy ending. The world is a better place.
Yeah… fucking whatever.
I’ll backtrack a bit and fill everyone in on my current psychological damage. My son, the light of my life, the creature for whom I work like a dog for, my little partner-in-crime has Asperger’s Syndrome. If you don’t know what this is… you can click over to the wikipedia link to it HERE. He’s extremely high functioning with it (to where you wouldn’t know there were any issues if you just hung out with him for a little while)… but he is so brilliant that this is almost working against him. And when I say brilliant, I’m not just being the “proud inflated mother”… he really is scary smart. I’d almost prefer for him to be an idiot… idiot’s are easy to raise and usually do what they’re told. He has the inability to understand social peer behavior, and can be extremely defiant when he doesn’t understand WHY he has to do something he doesn’t want to do… but is high functioning and smart enough to manipulate an entire classroom and a pack of teachers into a full blown circus with the blink of an eye in order to get out of doing what he doesn’t want to do. This is maddening. For his teacher and for me.
But today was the big kicker. He didn’t want to go to math class today. I don’t know why he has such issues with math because he’s really good at it (he’s extremely advanced in all his classes, and the work isn’t a challenge for him)… but he’s actually getting a ‘D’ in math class because he out-right refuses to do the work. But today, he refused to go. He just wouldn’t do it. His teachers tried every method they knew how to get him to go, and that just made him mad. So it turned into a full blown battle of wills (between him and 5 teachers PLUS the school principal)- and he won. Yes, this is my boy. By “won” I mean he acted out so much, and was so unmoving in his stance that they could not get him to go to math. They were forced to call me. And when he was told that I was on my way there he flew into hysterics because I’m the only one he fears. We have no god in our house- so I am the omniscient force in his life.
Long story short (too late)… he was asked to leave school for the day because they just couldn’t get him to do what he was told, and he was keeping all the other kids from doing their work as well. This has always been a problem. He doesn’t understand authority, or why some people are allowed to tell others what to do. When he was in kindergarten, his principal told me a story about one of the MANY times he was sent to her office. She was telling him why we have to follow rules, and why we have to do what the teachers say, etc etc etc. He very patiently sat and listened… and when she was done, he stood up and put a hand on her desk (he’s very much like a little adult) and said to her, “Listen, my mom will be here at 3. When I go home with my mom, you won’t be there. I won’t have to stand on the line or sit in the corner. You can’t do that at my house. And I don’t care if you do that to me here. So when my mom get’s here, there’s nothing else you can do to me. I’ll wait in the office until then.”… and he marched out of her office. HE WAS 5 YEARS OLD!!!! At 5 years old he had a full understanding of the fact that any of us can behave any way we want if we’re willing to suffer the consequences if we get caught. Most ADULTS don’t ever get a grasp on that concept!!! His principal told me that he sent chills down her spine with his little lecture- because he was RIGHT… and she knew that she had no response to that. In a Utopian society, there would be no such things as “authority figures”… but we live in the real world, and there are rules, and social hierarchy, and social boundaries, and you do have to exist accordingly. But he just doesn’t get it. At all.
To sum it up…. I’m fucked. So very very very fucked. And I’m terrified of his “teenaged years”.
But as of recently, he has feared my powers less and less. And he has become more and more confrontational with his teachers. And more manipulative when trying to get what he wants. So a friend of ours clued us into diet as being a major cause of alot of behaviors associated with this (which I knew already, but not to any specific extent), and in some extensive researching I have found that a GFCF (gluten free casein free) diet helps these kids IMMENSELY. BUT gluten is in everything under the sun… and casein is basically dairy. My son has never eaten meat in his life… so dairy and pastas are a gigantic part of his diet. I’m a little overwhelmed by how much I’m going to have to change every aspect of his eating habits- and also by how expensive this is going to get (cuz all those soy cheeses and gluten free products are not cheap). But I’m going to give it a shot, and see if any positive results come of it. It can’t hurt… right?
So if any of you out there have any suggestions or recipes for vegan gluten free diets…. PLEASE SPEAK UP!!! And please keep in mind that I can’t cook for shit, so the simpler the better.
Back to work I go… I got NOTHING done today, so I get to be up all night trying to catch up on everything I didn’t accomplish today. Vomit.
