My son and I took a little break and went down to Main Street today. Main Street in Huntington Beach is just like Main Street in Anywhere, USA… boutiques and restaurants that are where the masses congregate on sunny weekends. The only difference between the H.B. Main Street and Anywhere USA Main Street is that ours is a big surfer tourist area because it leads onto a pier, and on weekends it’s not just crowded- it’s packed. So we’re wandering around people-watching (one of our favorite things to do), and I’m cluing into some interesting behavior.
The groups of “punk girls” with their tattoos and piercings and perfectly manicured “I don’t care about your fashion” look were glaring and mocking the “indie rock art chick” girls for being snobs and the “prissy girls” for being superficial. The “indie rock art chick” girls with their tattoos and piercings and carefully manicured “I’m discarding mainstream fashion for retro fashion and craft fair jewelry that makes me oh-so-unique” were rolling their eyes at the “punk girls” for not being cool enough and the “prissy girls” for being superficial. The “prissy girls” with their perfectly manicured hair, nails and spray tan and designer clothing are looking in disgust at the “punk girls” for being intimidating and the “indie rock art chick” girls for being weird. I was watching group after group of cultural stereotypes pass each other on the street, giving each other the “evil eye” stare down quickly followed by snarky whispers to friends and noses immediately turning up into the air. The lady vs lady disdain was uncomfortable- but what really got to me was the fact that there isn’t ANYTHING different about any of these groups except the end result of how they choose to portray themselves to the world… which makes their disdain fully ridiculous an unnecessary.
When I make sweeping generalizations about the 3 mentioned groups, in NO WAY am I meaning to insult anyone. Because when I was younger I could have been quickly tucked into the “punk girl” category, over the past few years I probably could have been more easily tucked into the “indie” category, and as I’m getting older I’m getting prissier every day… so I’m a pretty solid combination of all 3 groups. But the uniforms are usually so extremely defined and well planned, that they can quickly be picked out of large crowds. But not only that, these groups rely on being defined by their exterior- but loathe each other because of the exteriors so much that it’s almost comical. Almost.
The “almost” is because there’s no reason under the sun for any of these girls to be treating each other like shit, because they are all exactly the same. There is no difference between a girl getting covered with tattoos and a girl getting a boob job and botox. There is no difference between a girl spending hundreds on a punk uniform and a girl spending hundreds on designer clothing. There is no difference between a girl spending hundreds on piercings and body jewelery and a girl spending hundreds on spray tans and hair extensions. Do you see where I’m going with this? Every one of these situations is a girl making attempts to fit into their social peer group that they’ve chosen, and spending the time, money and effort to properly adjust their appearance to be accepted in these peer groups.
Take the body modification: Is there really any difference between unloading huge amounts of money to sit for hours and hours in pain having chemical inks permanently injected into your skin, and spending huge amounts of money to have a procedure done that puts artificial implants into your boobs? I know the immediate argument is “But tattoos are an artistic expression and boob jobs are to fit into a shallow social stereotype”. But really… look deeper. Both procedures are done so that the girls are more comfortable with their exterior. Both procedures are done so that the girls feel more proud of their bodies. Both procedures are done because it is what is socially acceptable in the social groups they have chosen to be accepted by. On first glance- they seem to be so different… but when you dig down to the root, they come from the exact same place. And this can be said for every aspect of how these ladies all choose to present themselves to the world.
I guarantee you the average “indie rock art chick” spends just as much money at Urban Outfitters or H&M than the “punk chick” spends on boots and studded belts as the “prissy chick” spends on… well… whatever expensive designer clothing “prissy chicks” buy (I’m getting prissier as I get older, but I’m still broke so have no clue where those ladies shop). I’m close friends with ladies from all these groups- and there is no difference between any of them. The politics might be a little different, the life priorities might be a little different… but that’s it. So I left Main Street today extremely sad at the fact that so many girls have so much hate for so many other girls just because of how they look- when their attention to detail in how they look is the unifying factor between them all.
So with those observations in mind- ladies, please feel free to ponder this. And if you find yourself snubbing another lady because of something petty like what social club they belong to (and don’t feel bad if you have because it takes a conscious and continued effort to not do this)… please try to stop yourself. We ladies have to stop treating each other like shit- especially over things as stupid as what uniform we put on in the morning. Ladies hating ladies for any reason makes me really sad… so can we please all make a group effort to treat each other a little better? Thank you and good night.
(ps: The one group that didn’t get shitty about anyone were the hippy girls. So thank you, hippy girls, for being smiley and loving like good hippy’s should… or for being too baked to care. Either way is totally ok by me! xoxo)
(pps: I almost forgot! I finally got my jewelry line up and running! So in addition to the new sunglasses line, I now have necklaces available! If you wanna see them, click the image below to get swooped away to my webstore. Yay!!)
Cats with Moustaches, Mirrored ghosts, and wooden whispering bunny necklaces!